“Bundles of Blessings, Not a  Bit of Bother.”

 

The above statement has been my life’s mantra.

To whatever degree I have succeeded at doing this, I’m delighted!

To whatever degree I have failed at it, I’m sorry.

 

But being human, perfection isn’t even a reasonable goal.

(It’s an ideal, certainly, but not a reasonable goal.)

 

But trying to remain (or become) 100% blessing and 0% bother has resulted, all too often, in self-isolation. Something in my upbringing told me, early on, that I was “just too much” for a number of my relatives/caregivers/siblings/certain others.

 

Born ebullient and over-the-top vibrationally

 

…I was “corrected” (ham-handedly), early and often, not to be that way. As a result, I learned to live within others’ parameters for “normalcy” — including the unfathomable (to me) fable that I was supposed to be a girl because of my physical anatomy, which I may or may not have been born with. (If you’ve read WOMB MAN, How I Survived Growing Up in a Booby-Trapped World, you know that story.)

 

So, my goal — as early as I can remember — became to be a bundle of blessings and no bother.

 

“Give, give, give, but don’t ask for, or expect, anything in return.”  

 

It was my way to say, “I’m sorry I’m in your way, wherever I am.”

 

I simply never felt worthy of anything more.

 

So, I made my own way, more or less unilaterally.

 

But I’m awfully damned happy with the way it has turned out

 

The blessing in feeling bothersome without wanting to be caused me to become fiercely independent, almost completely fearless, and intensely self-directed.

 

As a result, I have lived the life I sought

 

My life didn’t just happen to me. I made it happen. I went where the best adventures could be found — the ones that were on my personal radar:  writing, Hollywood, animal care and rescue, and pursuing friendships that didn’t require anything more than mutual interests and ethical, empathetic shared values.

 

I’ve met and loved utterly amazing human beings

 

If you’ve been following me for very long, you know most of the stories.  And if you haven’t, I’ve written more than a dozen books about them, so you can experience them after the fact.  Look up my Author Central page at Amazon; you’ll find the titles and book descriptions there.

 

I’m writing this not to toot my own horn. I’m writing it to let other “aliens” know that you can create your own pathway to happiness and success, in whatever way you define success for yourself.

 

You will have to be willing to step away from everything and everyone that doesn’t serve and encourage your growth and trajectory, but the separation will feel more like liberation than amputation afterward, if you have the same experience I’ve had.

 

The World Awaits You!

 

You can dream as big as you dare. Then, if you put action and elbow grease to your goals, they will happen. And you’ll never return to your former size. You’ll expand and feel connected to all there is in life that nurtures you.

 

Don’t wait.  Life is too short.  Die empty, not still aching because you didn’t empty your bucket list!

 

You got this!